I know that everything and everyone in my life is a reflection of my inner thoughts.  I’ve been thinking how this lesson of mine has recycled at certain points in my process.  The lesson I’m talking about is how to react positively to the not-so positive.

I know I can choose how I react to any person or situation.  The fun part for me is to put this knowledge into action.  This is often called practicing what you preach or walking the talk. 

Many times in the past, I’ve beaten myself up for creating negativity in my life.  I’ll think about how I misused my thoughts for something not-so nice.  I’ve realized lately though this is not where to dwell!  If I focus on what I’ve done wrong (ie., creating the negativity), I’ll just attract more of the same to me (yes, this is related to the Law of Attraction).  So, a shift is needed.

The shift that is needed is to simply acknowledge that yes, I created this negativity, but the key is for me not to give it any energy.  It’s better to forgive myself and move on to focus on what I do want.  My biggest desire is to be loving to myself and others.  That is the bottom line for me.  I tend to focus on this mostly (I say mostly because well, I am human so I’m not always perfect).

The best time I’ve learned for myself to practice how to react positively is when someone in your close proximity is in a bad mood.  Spiritual folks will say that this person in a bad mood is just mirroring the part of you that has a tendency to have a bad mood.  Or, maybe you are in a bad mood?  To all of that, I say, “So what!”  I know this sounds harsh, but to me, it’s like stating the obvious.  Everyone is a mirror to everyone else.  For me, it’s about how I respond.  I strive to be a conscious creator of my current and future reality.  By focusing on how I created something, I’m focusing on the past.  Focusing on the past is not conducive to my peaceful state of mind or bringing in what I want to bring into my life.

When someone is in a bad mood, I prefer to just respond with love.  It can be a challenge at times if this is someone close to me, but I do my best to be my same old cheerful self.  I don’t want to buy into the negativity.  Sometimes, it’s been intense energy-wise for me to be in the negativity.  I notice that the negativity is there, but I don’t stare at it.  I like the analogy of a large, green, hairy monster in my living room.  At times when someone else is negative, it can feel like they are in denial of the large, green, hairy monster being in the living room.  I see that it’s there, but I don’t try to argue with the person.  I just say non-chalantly, “Oh, yes, he’s there, but anyway, as I was saying about this other topic of discussion…”

In the past, I’ve felt infuriated when people ignore that there is a problem.  I mean, my human side wants to say, “Hey, wait a minute!  What is up?  Let’s talk about this!”  The person you’re mad at won’t answer.  He or she just ignores you.  Actually, I’m thinking that being ignored is actually a gift!  The person is teaching you how not to give it energy.  I’m not suggesting to ignore problems, but maybe not every little thing is worth fighting about or discussing.  It’s good to just let some things ride.

The large, hairy, green monster often goes away and finds a new home in someone else’s living room.  Sometimes, he’ll stick around.  If he takes up residence, getting potato chip crumbs in your couch and passing a lot of gas, this just means the problem or issue at hand needs to be worked through.  I know that sometimes, the monster will come into your bed at night and you can’t sleep, tossing and turning.  The problem comes with you to work or even when you’re trying to enjoy yourself.  That is how you know you have stuff to talk about with someone, whether it’s your loved one, a counselor, a life coach, or your divine helpers.

I know I’ve used humor to talk about problems.  This may not seem loving, but honestly, I feel that humor is healing.  It can shift the energies.  It can heal things in a heartbeat.  I’ve experienced that.  Humor is high vibration and loving.  I am not saying to make light of serious matters, but to react in a loving way to challenges in life, especially when it’s people involved (people are involved in everything–aren’t they?).

Love yourself first and the rest will follow…

Lovingly,

Lisa